Single and over 30 dilemma

I’ve had a few people comment about being over 30 and still single.  It is like a marker that fast approaches and it is depressing to find yourself still single over 30.  We always think we will find the right one and then, boom, he/she is not there. 

What do you do when you find yourself in this dilemma?  Well, I know that we don’t really change until the pain gets bad enough.  That is why you see people with extraordinary stories of overcoming a disease, illness or a death of a loved one.  Now, I don’t recommend going out and getting sick of course but I know that when we step out of our normal routine and stretch ourselves, it really opens our life up to many different avenues.  We let our guard down and we tend to have a more no-care attitude to life. 

I know that singles tend to go to the same places, hang out with the same friends.  If you want to find someone, do a lot of different things alone or with new people.  And don’t do it just once.  We tend to go do something once and then it was so uncomfortable that we don’t do it again.  Well, in order to meet someone new, you will need to do a lot of different things and it doesn’t mean that they are all going to be uncomfortable. 

How many times are we hestitant on doing something, for example, maybe going to a party that a friend is having and then once we get there, by the end of the evening we had a great time and we are glad we did it.  These are the type of experiences you will need to have more of in order to meet someone.

Also, there is also a lot of talk about law of attraction, manifestation and the power of intention.  I like to look at this as a game for myself.  I manifested by boyfriend.  I told myself that I wanted to meet a man within the week, either for personal or business, and it may be a quick meeting or maybe a long conversation but I told myself I wanted to meet a man.  That week, I went to a networking event and I shared a table with my now boyfriend.  He asked me out and that was that. 

And if you do this, don’t make a too complicated!  As a matter of fact, make it as simple as you can.  When you do this type of exercise, something shifts in your brain.  I was going around every time I would see a man say in the elevator or in the hall, and I would think to myself “Is this the person I’m going to meet?”  I didn’t force it but I just had that one thought. 

One more really important aspect to not let an opportunity pass you by.  So many times, I hear stories of “I saw this person across the room and I was just going to go and talk to them, then my cell phone rang and after I hung up, the person was gone.”  Well, let them leave a message.  Do not let this person go without at least introducing yourself.  And you can simply say, “I saw you and I thought you would interesting to meet so I didn’t want to leave until I at least came over and by the very least introduced myself.”  Now this is bold stuff and it takes a little guts to do it but I would think the other person would be nothing but flattered and if they are not, you have your answer as this is a person you do not need to meet. 

So to recap what will help in finding your life mate when you are over 30 is the following steps:

1.  Go out a lot to new places and meet new people, preferably alone. 
2.  Come up with a simple phrase to help get your mind in the right place to manifest this in your life.
3.  Do not let any opportunity to pass you by to meet someone. 

Now if you do these three every simple things, you will be well on your way to finding the love of your life.  Oh, and one more thing, approach this with an open mind.  Remember, there are two things that work better open, that is a parachute and your mind. 

Have fun!!!!

More singles resources needed

I’ve been working on expanding my website, www.singlocity.com and I have been doing extensive research on resources in different states. Many states have a lot of resources but I really am in need of resources in states such as Louisiana and Oklahoma. However, if you have a good resource you would like for me to include in my list, please let me know. You just have to email resources@singlocity.com. I have already a good list started for all the states with California, Colorado and Texas being the best states. However, I always want to know what is going on for singles in all states.

So if you could help me that would be great!!! Have a fabulous day!!

Being Single Sucks

Let’s face it. Many people hate being single. They yearn every day for someone in their life.  It would be nice to go home to someone.  However, the task of finding someone can seem so daunting.  It is the same old dilemma, you won’t meet someone unless you make an effort.  As many of the teachers say, what you focus your attention on happens.  Well, for singles it is a little more than that.  Many times it is the main focus of their attention however, nothing seems to be happening. 

Then other people say, it happens when you are ready.  Then many singles scream, “I am ready, I am ready.”  Then nothing.  It is so frustrating.  However, singles know from the bottom of their heart that when it does happen, it is the best.  So that is why they strive onward. 

If I was going to say one thing to singles that I know is true, is that the amount of effort put into finding someone and your willingness to have an open mind equals finding someone in your life.  I manifested meeting my boyfriend.  My friend and I would talk a lot about manifesting something or in this case, someone in our lives.  Well, I told myself that I wanted to meet an interesting man, may it be for personal or it could be for business or maybe just for a brief interesting conversation.  I left it open-ended. 

Well, this left me in a place to wonder about every man I met, may it be in the elevator, at a networking event, at a meeting or whatever.  I would always say to myself, is this the interesting guy I would meet?  Well, not a week later, I met my boyfriend at a networking event.  He asked me out(which trust me rarely happened to me) and I said “Sure, why not.”  And here I am. 

So I guess the best way to be is to be open-minded.  Remember parachutes are like our minds, they don’t work unless they are open.  Ciao!!!!

How to pick a good singles company

There are many choices for singles to pick from when finding your true love. You could choose Internet dating, dating services, singles clubs, matchmakers, bars or just simply the old fashioned way by bumping into someone and introducing yourself. Whatever you choose, just be careful. Here are a few tips to use when you start or change your journey in finding other singles to meet.
~~ Ask a lot of questions. When you are searching for a company it is ok to ask many questions such as how many members to you have, what age range is most of your members, how long have you been in business, how much does it cost. If they do not answer these questions right up front, you will be in a hard selling position. In other words, they will be in charge by asking you many questions and moving you into purchasing their package. Do not buy though until all your questions are answered and you are comfortable with the answers.
~~ Ask if there is a money back guarantee of some sort. Of course, most singles companies can’t guarantee you will find the love of your life. A lot of that is up to you, but they can maybe guarantee your satisfaction, the amount of QUALITY dates you will have, etc.
~~ Follow your instincts. If you are not comfortable with the people working there or the company, do not buy. There are a lot of good people who truly want to help singles but there are some companies who just want to take your money so just beware.
~~ Don’t set yourself up for disappointment. Many times we sign up for singles companies expecting to meet someone right away and all is well. Most times, finding someone to spend time with takes time and energy and money. So don’t expect you will meet “the one” right away. Give it some time.
~~ Have fun. People think of this process as grueling and uncomfortable. But you can decide to have fun with it and go out and meet a lot of great people. Just remember that everyone has a story and you can learn the most interesting things about people if you can get them to open up.

Here a just a few tips on finding companies that will help you find singles to meet. The only thing I can tell you is to just be aware and do your homework. Check out the company, ask for references, talk to people who may have heard of them and also, have fun with it.

Yea, Valentine’s Day is over

Valentine’s Day, the most dreaded day of the year for singles.  It is the reminder of the lack of that one special person in their lives.  My website slowed down this last weekend, maybe it was because it was a long vacation weekend and people were out playing or it was because many singles were in a state of depression and were hiding out this weekend. 

In any case, it’s over!!!  I purposely did not write a post before Valentine’s Day going over the 5 steps of getting through Valentine’s Day.  Singles are not stupid nor are they of a lack of ingenuity and thoughtfulness.  I know singles could come up with things that would get them through the weekend.  Actually, most singles probably tried to forget it was Valentine’s Day and went on about their business in the usual manner.  No big deal.  But the best thing is, it is all over for another year!