Ok, so I believe that most single people really don’t want to be single. There are a few that really, really like being single and absolutely will not be in a relationship. But if push comes to shove and they meet someone, they may consider it. But for the most part, I believe single people deep down want someone in their life. However, most singles are not interested in going through what it takes to find someone. Face it, it is a pain in the you know what.
Most of the single people I know are wonderful people. Beautiful, intelligent, stable, really nice people. But they are not consciously pursuing a relationship. They are good with the notion that if prince or princess charming comes into their sphere of sight, they will consider the idea of going out with them, that is if the question “will you go out with me is asked”. But if this does not present itself, they’re good with everything. They are going to work, possibly going to school, traveling, having fun with friends and getting most of their needs met. So why should they pursue someone if most parts of their lives are going well?
Well, I guess that is the real question. What are the perks to having someone in your life if most all of your needs are being met? Hummmmm. What do you think?
Thu May 21 2009 at 1:00 pm
I definitely hear where you are coming from on this and I am extremely single for a long time now…but here’s the issue. I have often looked for answers on whether or not some people are just meant to be single and have come up with nothing. It seems that even back in the beginning of time, people are paired up to be together. Whether or not it is out of evolutionary process or simply for human companionship, people are meant to spend their life with someone. The trouble is that if you look at almost anyone who is single- especially over 30 years old, they have likely gotten to that point on the heals of something that sent them down their current path. It could’ve been a bad relationship, a career that they put first, etc…Once people become very good at being alone, it is very easy to dismiss anyone who isn’t exactly what their protective shell has forced them to believe is who they need. Often if you strip back the time that has built up the shell, you’ll find that at some point, the person has stepped away from what was best for them. What are the perks of having someone in your life? …having a companion, the feeling of knowing that you not only matter to yourself, but to someone else too, someone to watch a tv show or have dinner with or possibly someone who knows you even better than you know yourself. Everyone really wants that but resigns themself to thinking that their life is complete without it. Who would want to believe that their life was missing something and wakeup everyday with the pain of knowing that? No one does. My life is very complete too…but I am missing someone in it! There’s no way around that! Waiting for that person to present him/herself is fine- but the person really needs to be sure that that person doesn’t keep presenting themselves only to be dismissed over and over again by someone who has forgotten how to feel for fear of leaping into something unknown. You may get hurt, but pain is on the same spectrum as love so the closer you get to one, the more the possibility of the other presents itself. Take a risk so you can have all that life offers! There’s no reason we can’t have it all!