Single or not, that is the question

Ok, so I believe that most single people really don’t want to be single.  There are a few that really, really like being single and absolutely will not be in a relationship.  But if push comes to shove and they meet someone, they may consider it.  But for the most part, I believe single people deep down want someone in their life.  However, most singles are not interested in going through what it takes to find someone.  Face it, it is a pain in the you know what. 

Most of the single people I know are wonderful people.  Beautiful, intelligent, stable, really nice people.  But they are not consciously pursuing a relationship.  They are good with the notion that if prince or princess charming comes into their sphere of sight, they will consider the idea of going out with them, that is if the question “will you go out with me is asked”.  But if this does not present itself, they’re good with everything.  They are going to work, possibly going to school, traveling, having fun with friends and getting most of their needs met.  So why should they pursue someone if most parts of their lives are going well? 

Well, I guess that is the real question.  What are the perks to having someone in your life if most all of your needs are being met?  Hummmmm.  What do you think?

Single and over 30 dilemma

I’ve had a few people comment about being over 30 and still single.  It is like a marker that fast approaches and it is depressing to find yourself still single over 30.  We always think we will find the right one and then, boom, he/she is not there. 

What do you do when you find yourself in this dilemma?  Well, I know that we don’t really change until the pain gets bad enough.  That is why you see people with extraordinary stories of overcoming a disease, illness or a death of a loved one.  Now, I don’t recommend going out and getting sick of course but I know that when we step out of our normal routine and stretch ourselves, it really opens our life up to many different avenues.  We let our guard down and we tend to have a more no-care attitude to life. 

I know that singles tend to go to the same places, hang out with the same friends.  If you want to find someone, do a lot of different things alone or with new people.  And don’t do it just once.  We tend to go do something once and then it was so uncomfortable that we don’t do it again.  Well, in order to meet someone new, you will need to do a lot of different things and it doesn’t mean that they are all going to be uncomfortable. 

How many times are we hestitant on doing something, for example, maybe going to a party that a friend is having and then once we get there, by the end of the evening we had a great time and we are glad we did it.  These are the type of experiences you will need to have more of in order to meet someone.

Also, there is also a lot of talk about law of attraction, manifestation and the power of intention.  I like to look at this as a game for myself.  I manifested by boyfriend.  I told myself that I wanted to meet a man within the week, either for personal or business, and it may be a quick meeting or maybe a long conversation but I told myself I wanted to meet a man.  That week, I went to a networking event and I shared a table with my now boyfriend.  He asked me out and that was that. 

And if you do this, don’t make a too complicated!  As a matter of fact, make it as simple as you can.  When you do this type of exercise, something shifts in your brain.  I was going around every time I would see a man say in the elevator or in the hall, and I would think to myself “Is this the person I’m going to meet?”  I didn’t force it but I just had that one thought. 

One more really important aspect to not let an opportunity pass you by.  So many times, I hear stories of “I saw this person across the room and I was just going to go and talk to them, then my cell phone rang and after I hung up, the person was gone.”  Well, let them leave a message.  Do not let this person go without at least introducing yourself.  And you can simply say, “I saw you and I thought you would interesting to meet so I didn’t want to leave until I at least came over and by the very least introduced myself.”  Now this is bold stuff and it takes a little guts to do it but I would think the other person would be nothing but flattered and if they are not, you have your answer as this is a person you do not need to meet. 

So to recap what will help in finding your life mate when you are over 30 is the following steps:

1.  Go out a lot to new places and meet new people, preferably alone. 
2.  Come up with a simple phrase to help get your mind in the right place to manifest this in your life.
3.  Do not let any opportunity to pass you by to meet someone. 

Now if you do these three every simple things, you will be well on your way to finding the love of your life.  Oh, and one more thing, approach this with an open mind.  Remember, there are two things that work better open, that is a parachute and your mind. 

Have fun!!!!