Happy Turkey Day, Singles

Well, here we are at the second most important holiday of the year(Christmas being the first or Hanukkah if you are Jewish).  These two days, for the most part, are days that singles really dread.  I don’t know one single person that really looks forward to these days.  They mostly look at them as “do we have to???”  But here it is and we need to go through them anyhow. 

Thanksgiving is a time to give thanks for what you have.  It is good to keep in mind how lucky we are to have the things that we do have.  I know there are a lot of people who are fearful of the economy and who have lost a lot in the stock market or who are about to lose their homes(or already have).  Or maybe you’ve lost your job and you are limping along financially.  When you are in these situations, it makes it harder to be grateful and thankful for what you have. 

However, a friend of mine told me a story about a woman in her 70’s in Africa who was walking around picking up grains on the dirt ground for food and people who have to walk 2-3 miles just to get fresh drinking water.  So ask yourself, do you have some food in your refrigerator or in your cupboards still to have a warm meal?  Do you have water that you can drink just by turning on the faucet?  Do you have car or a subway or a bus to get you to where you want to go in no time and you can sit down in the meantime?

This economic crisis is making us aware of how lucky we are to have the little things in life.  It is also teaching us to get along with less and how spoiled we really are.  It also is teaching us to help each other more.   We always hear stories of someone who is worse off than yourself.  And these are people who we can help.  

 So then they say there is good that always comes out of hard times.  This is just as true in these economic times.  So this Thanksgiving I’m going to concentrate on appreciating what I have still, not what I’ve lost.  I’m going to look to the future for inspiration instead of looking at the past to bring me down and I’m also going to help someone every opportunity that I can. 

So have a great Thanksgiving and do something special for yourself.  This is truly a special day.

Holiday blues no more

Ok, so the holidays are approaching.  It’s usually my nature, about this time of year, to start taking on this “bah humbug” approach to the holidays.  I want to go in my house, put a pillow over my head and then have someone tell me when its all over so I can say I conveniently missed them.  This time of year has been painful for me in the past many years.  It has always been a struggle for me emotionally and I would really rather have skipped them all.  It was especially hard when my mother was sick and we were wondering if maybe this would her last Christmas. 

So instead of dwelling on the failed Thanksgiving and Christmases of the past, I am working on looking to the future and creating a new way of looking at the holidays.  So maybe it will be a time of deep reflection and to look at how 2009 can be different for me.  Maybe we can start a new tradition that would serve me and my boyfriend as we start our life together that will help us through the holidays.(He hates the holidays too.)  And maybe this year, I will put up a Christmas tree.  I haven’t put one up in years.  When you don’t have kids, it doesn’t seem as important. 

Who knows, maybe I’ll watch all the holiday movie favorites all of December and try and work on getting in the Christmas mood. 

All I know is that singles have to make up their own holiday fun!!  I would encourage everyone to think of one thing they will do that will be a fun thing this holiday.  I think this year, we’ll get a Charlie Brown Christmas tree, invite some friends over, make chili and have them help decorate our tree.  That sounds like fun. 

Fun to all and to all a good night!!!!

Is there really someone for everyone?

Face it, some single people are quirky(not you, right?)  Well, they can be.  Especially the older they get, the more they are set in their ways.  They like to do things a certain way, cook a certain way and do things when they want.  They may even be picky about their stuff and how to maintain it or use it.  So how is it possible to find someone who you will get along with? 

Someone said to me once that made so much sense.  She said, “you have to find someone with the same kind of crazy as you”.  And I don’t mean that in a bad way or in a way that means you need to date someone who is mentally ill (although mentally ill people are a viable part of society and have the same chances in meeting someone).  I mean, when you date someone, there has to be some common ground,  that you understand why this person does things a certain way because you are the same kind of thought process as them. 

For instance, my boyfriend and I are the same kind of crazy.  We both have never been married.  We both have the same kind of ideas about business and life.  We understand each other and when the other gets into their craziness, we would say, “I understand because I’m like you”.  It doesn’t mean we have to share the same passions or the same hobbies.  It is deeper than that.  It is an understanding that is about the other person’s nature. 

So is there someone for everyone?  I would say, wholeheartedly, yes.  There is someone out there with the same kind of crazy as you.  The interesting part is figuring out how to find this person.  Huummmm!!!!!  Any comments?