Interesting Times We Are Living

Wow, I’m sure many of you are in different places in your lives.  Some may be fine financially and not experiencing the troubles similar to what the country is facing.  There are some of you who are really struggling and not sure where to turn to.  This is a time to pull together whether you are doing well or not. 

For those who are doing well, I would encourage you to make a difference in someone’s day today who is struggling.  Do a pay it forward act or just simply call someone who you know could use a little encouragement and take them out to lunch.

For those who are not doing well, I encourage you to do the same thing, do something good for someone else.  Take someone out to lunch who is doing well so you can be reminded that it is all going to be ok. Volunteer your time to a food bank or an animal shelter.   It lifts our spirits if we help other people. 

The point is that we need to all stick together and help one another.  When we are struggling, we can get so self-absorbed and we tend to hide in our homes.  Get out of the house and go do errands and just be around people. 

What a difference a day makes!!  I heard this expression to remind me that if we are having a bad day today and things don’t seem to be going just right today, we always have tomorrow and things can be totally different. 

So chin up, let’s help each other, oh and get out and vote!!!

Beware of Netflix syndrome!!

Ok, when I was single, the most favorite thing for me to do was to get chips and salsa and a beverage and sit and watch movies at night at home, alone.  I did this night after night and I thought of this as a special night.  And it is ok to do once in a while but it became a habit.  And this is the worse thing you can do if you want to get out of your singledom.  The only people you will meet doing this is the pizza delivery boy or maybe if you are lucky the UPS man or woman who can’t find your neighbor’s house. 

So it is easy to hole up in your house and do fun things by yourself at home.  However, this does not expand your horizons and it certainly doesn’t tickle your social funny bone which is an important aspect of being a human being.  We as human beings are meant to connect with other people.  Ok, there are some people who are meant to be hermits(everyone has one in their neighborhood where you know someone lives there but you’ve never seen them) but for the most part people want to connect.  That is why Starbucks was invented.  It is a place to go and be around people but you can be a little inconspicuous sitting there drinking your latte. 

Ok, the point is that Netflix is good(I love Netflix and I use them exclusively) but please get out of the house once in a while and interact with different people.  Have fun and remember, live the life you love and love the life you live.  Caio!!!

Does Internet Dating work?

I know many singles who are turned off by Internet dating.  They just can’t bring themselves to posting a profile.  It may feel too forward or too much “out there”, if you know what I mean.  Many singles are very private and they don’t want their private information out on the Internet.  Or they may be too untrusting to start meeting people who are strangers. 

I even had some reservations about Internet dating when I tried it.  It was a lot of work and a lot of emotional energy.  I was dating one to two guys each week and I got confused who lived where and what each one did for a living.  It was a lot of brain cells at work to keep up. 

But I know many people who have met the love of their life on the Internet.  These people were persistent and kept an open mind.  I knew one person who said, “Ok, I’m going to try this one more time and if it doesn’t work, I’m not going to ever do Internet dating again.”  Well, guess what, she met her husband.  Maybe when we get to that “now or never” attitude, things happen.  I always say, that when we get mad is when things get done. 

So the answer to the question, does Internet dating work?  The answer is yes, it can work.  My boyfriend is a wedding videographer and many of the couples met on the Internet.  So don’t throw away the opportunity to try Internet dating or to try again.  Maybe be smarter about what your profile says or who you meet.  Be more selective, or on the other side of the spectrum, let go of your inhibitions and just go for it, whatever the case  may be.  And as I always say, the cardinal rule is to always HAVE FUN!!!

Singles survive the economy, this is my guess!!

I wonder how the economy affects the single community.  They do not have another income to fall back on and usually don’t have an emotional support at home.  But as I know singles, they are the most resilient and self-sufficient people on the planet.  They will survive and they will do what they can to get through this. 

I would like to encourage singles to reach out to their single friends and support each other through this crazy time in our country.  It is also important to try and stay positive and just know that this all has to only get better(can it get any worse? I suppose) but someone said that we need to be ready for the upswing.  I forgot that there has to be an upswing some day so let’s be ready for that. 

I would like to know how singles are faring through this difficult time.  Maybe singles are flailing, maybe they are doing well.   What do you think?  How are you doing?  What are some of your stories and how can we help here at Singlocity?