The Sicko Single

Ok, so a few days ago I had some kind of food poisoning to a point that I thought I was going to need to go to the emergency room.  But when you are alone, what goes through your mind is, first, who are you going to call to take you there or can I drive myself?  Also, if I drove myself, which was the best choice since singles are so self-reliant and we don’t want to impose on anyone, the next worry was, can I keep my car parked at the emergency room until I get out? 

So it is a big worry for singles when we get sick.  Even worse if it is a big sickness such as cancer we worry about where we will get the ongoing support.  Hopefully we are on good terms with our family members as they will be the first people we turn to but if not we can rely on our best friends.  One thing for sure, people want to help.  People love to help and there is nothing wrong with asking for help when we need it.  But it is one big worry singles have is who is going to take care of us if we need this kind of support.  Any ideas? 

Any stories of being sick and how you got through it alone?

When I turned 30 and being single, still

I’m 45 years old now but when I turned 30, I was so depressed.  I thought, “here I am 30 years old and still single.”  I guess I never thought I would still be single at 30.  As a matter of fact,  hadn’t had many boyfriends.  I was wondering what was so wrong with me.  If I would have known that it would take another 15 years to find a “full-time” boyfriend, I would have really been depressed.  But it is a situation that we yearn for and want, sometimes on a daily basis but we are not willing to work towards it.  What would I have done differently?  I may have tried to meet more new people and not been so shy.  Of course when I was 30 it was 1993 and the internet wasn’t a household word yet.  It was in its infancy stages. 

So I remained single until I met my current boyfriend and how I met him was I was at a networking event.  He asked me out and I said “what the heck.  I could use a date.”  The thing was that he is an African American man and I wasn’t sure how that would work out.  But again, “what the heck”.  We’ve been dating for about a year and a half and all is well. 

How do you feel about being single?  Are you happy or are you yearning for a companion?

Recommending Fisher Divorce Seminars

Having been in the singles industry a while, I’ve heard nothing but good things about the Fisher divorce seminars.  They are a multi-week workshop where a person can work on the emotions that well up inside someone who is going through a divorce.  People come out the the workshops having worked through their anger for there ex-spouse and are ready to move on with their lives.  We can hold on the many negative emotions when we are go through a tramatic event and these emotions eventually does not serve us.  I encourage you to check out a Fisher Divorce Program near you.  Jeannine Lee  holds workshops in Colorado.

Singles and their false perceptions

Life is just the stories we make up and some are not true.  We have made up stories so we can continue to live our lives the way we see fit.  However, some of these stories may not serve us in order for us to get what we want.  I’ve seen the stories and perceptions single people make in order to keep them from experiencing life.    For instance, I’ve heard singles say, “I’m not going to that singles event because there won’t be anybody there my age.”  And what is really interesting is that they really don’t know the age demographics of the event.  They are using this as an excuse for not going and checking it out.   And why it is so prolific in single people is because most of the time they don’t have another person(a spouse or boyfriend) to call them on their false perceptions.  They don’t have another person who knows their “ins” and “outs” to catch them living by their false beliefs or stories.  So what are some of your stories that may or may not be true.  Here are some examples.  I’m too old (short, bald, fat, uncharismatic, etc) to find someone in my life.  I’m too busy or too scared to go to a singles event.  What is your story or perception of your life?  Hummmmm…….