I have never been married. I believe there are more people like me than ever before. Here I am 45 years old and single. I’m dating someone right now but being single until now has been interesting. The older you get, the more you think people judge you for never had been married. But also I think that there isn’t as much of a stigma as there used to be. I do believe that some people wonder if you are gay if you haven’t been married by the time you are 40.
It just so happens that it has taken this long to find someone who will put up with my idiocyncrisies. Someone told me once that it is important to find someone with the same kind of “crazy” as you are. We all have them and I think you develop more of these quirks the older you get. However, when you are in a relationship, all your quirks come out and you end up having to deal with them eventually. When you are living alone, it doesn’t matter. Now I have to think about the other person and how it affects them.
Anyway, let’s hear from the other “never marrieds” out there and how does it feel to be in this situation? I would also like to hear from the people who have been married and now are divorce and how do you feel about people who have never been married? Would you date someone who has never been married? Let us all know.
Tue Jun 10 2008 at 4:05 am
I am still unmarried in my late 30s. I don’t find 6that there is too much of a stigma attached to this anymore,. However, I would never date somebody my age who is divorced. Not sure why that is, but I guess its a personal preference.
Tue Jun 10 2008 at 7:42 pm
I’ve never considered getting married is a big deal as long as you are happy with your singleness
Fri Jun 13 2008 at 4:22 pm
41 and never married. I feel like people look at me as being different and maybe weird. Living in California, being gay/lesbian isn’t a big deal… so it’s more uncomfortable being alone than being in a same sex relationship.
Thu May 21 2009 at 1:20 pm
I’m in my late 30’s and have never been married. I don’t feel as though there is a stigma on that but I do feel as though there are far fewer dating opportunities for a never been married, educated woman. It’s interesting because she should be quite a catch. For that matter, there are even fewer people to spend time with that we can even relate to as friends. People have kids, responsibilites, etc… not to say that we don’t have responsibilties because our jobs and hobbies are just that- I just don’t feel like a “grown-up” yet! The trouble is that most men our age are divorced with families. It almost seems easier to blend a family than to try to find someone to start one with who is in the same stage of life you are in. Divorced people put themselves in that single category with the never married but if they have families, they are in a completely different place in life. I’m hoping to start! They are hoping to find a lifetime companion to love! We all deserve the best but until we meet that person whose ideals match our own, we will remain single. There’s nothing wrong with anyone’s view on this, your life partner’s simply needs to align with yours!