The single worry

Life teaches us every day.   Life by design is our playpen.  Singles have a whole set of different lessons than say someone who may be in a relationship or married.  Some of them may be the constant yearning for companionship in their lives.  Some of it may be learning to become totally self-reliant. 

And I can’t really say whether being single or having someone if our lives is better.  Some people are happier single.  They are fine with not having a mate in their life.  And then again, some people spend all their time and energy thinking about and looking for a mate in their life. I feel that the worrying and the fear we bring up inside ourselves is worse than the actual situation we are worrying about.  For instance, someone may worry that they will be alone with no one around to help occupy their time or for protection.  But being alone itself is not that big a deal, I think, and I believe the worrying about it is worse than actually being alone. 

So my goal is to give up my worrying.  It is doing more damage to my mind, my body and my life than the actual events happening in my life.  What do you think?  What are your worries as a single person? 

Confession of a single person

As I write this post, I want to come clean.  I’m not totally single.  I have a boyfriend.  We’ve been dating for over a year and it is quite strange to be in a relationship.  You see, I’ve been single all my life.  I’m one of those “never marrieds”.  and ironically, he is too.  So we have a lot in common on this note.  I, however, feel like I’m an expert at being single as I was one for 45 years.  Or maybe we can still call ourselves single since we are not married.  But we are attached.  Anyway, I also have been in the single industry for over 6 years and I’ve met thousands of singles in these great years.  I have a passion to help singles whether it is with their dating woes or if it is about normal situations that singles come across.  People ask, “would you stop what you are doing if you found someone?”  I said I wouldn’t and I won’t.  I want to help improve the quality of life for singles, however that looks like and I plan to do this with my website, singlocity.com and also this blog. 

Anyway, that is my confession. Any comments?

 

Never marrieds

I have never been married.  I believe there are more people like me than ever before.  Here I am 45 years old and single.  I’m dating someone right now but being single until now has been interesting.  The older you get, the more you think people judge you for never had been married.  But also I think that there isn’t as much of a stigma as there used to be.  I do believe that some people wonder if you are gay if you haven’t been married by the time you are 40. 

It just so happens that it has taken this long to find someone who will put up with my idiocyncrisies.  Someone told me once that it is important to find someone with the same kind of “crazy” as you are.  We all have them and I think you develop more of these quirks the older you get.  However, when you are in a relationship, all your quirks come out and you end up having to deal with them eventually.  When you are living alone, it doesn’t matter.  Now I have to think about the other person and how it affects them. 

Anyway, let’s hear from the other “never marrieds” out there and how does it feel to be in this situation?  I would also like to hear from the people who have been married and now are divorce and how do you feel about people who have never been married?  Would you date someone who has never been married?  Let us all know.